An upside to attachment: a chance to participate in the real world July 9, 2017Home, Parenting, Rural, Sea Lifeattachment, extrinsic motivation, gummy bears, Parenting, performance, talent, thorofare, vinalhaven By Courtney Naliboff All right, kid. If you’re chill on stage with us, there’s a little bag of gummy bears in it for you.” That’s right. Extrinsic motivation for the win, again.